Why I get uncomfortable when my wife gets into a cleaning frenzy

Oftentimes when I go see an action flick in the theater, and there's a car chase of some kind, I leave the theatre with that car-chase-speed-force in me. I catch myself driving faster than normal, changing in and out of lanes, just like the scenes I just saw. It only happens for a moment before I'm conscious of it and choose my normal pace.

After watching a deeply touching movie, I often leave feeling a little emotional.

Or if the lead role, like Rocky Balboa, has a triumphant experience, overcoming great odds, I leave feeling like I can do anything, like I too can be triumphant.

We are so easily influenced by our experiences, whether they're real life or not.  

It's then no surprise the lasting impact that our life experiences can have on us, especially when we're exposed to them repeatedly.

For example, sometimes when I'm sitting on the couch watching TV or reading a book, and my wife starts moving about around me, cleaning, organizing, etc... I feel uncomfortable and a sense of unease.

I feel like I should be doing something.
I feel like it's not right that I'm sitting relaxing while she is working.
I feel like it's better to stop what I'm doing and help her or else she'll be upset. 
I feel like I can't relax because I can feel her active energy.

What's interesting is that the unease I feel has nothing to do with my wife or the present circumstances. 

It does have more to do with the experiences I had growing up with my mom. 

You see when I was a kid, and my mom was upset about something, she would act out her emotions as a way to get attention, to be heard. (We all have learned to do this in one form or another.) 

Anyway, I didn't like it when she was upset because it made me feel uncomfortable. I was on edge. Anything little could have triggered her. I walked around on eggshells and learned to do things to please her so that she received the attention and love she was looking for.

Once she was at peace or at least not on the edge of volatility, then I felt okay to relax.

These kinds of experiences happened countless numbers of times. Each time it did, I was more deeply imprinted with the vibration of unease. I learned to believe that I couldn't relax and do what I wanted while others were busy around me. 

So now, 30 plus years later, that inner unease still comes up. 

The difference now is that I don't let it control me.

There were many times earlier in our marriage when I did let it shape my actions. When I would react in the same ways I used to react to my mom. 

These days, I'm much more conscious of it and can make different choices. When the unease gets stirred up, I can breathe, continue to read or watch TV and let my wife do what she wants to do. If she needs my help, she'll ask.  

We all have these energetic imprints. 

It's important that we become conscious of them and choose to create new habits of being. Doing this frees us to be who we want to be and to have what we want.

Often the only thing that blocks us is our old ways of reacting to past experiences. 

We need to learn to create new ways of responding to old stimuli so that we can start living more joyful and expansive lives. My favorite way to do this is to create new energetic imprints that replace the old ones. 

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